TO HELP PEOPLE

 I had many adventures in my life till today, i think the most interesting adventure of my life is to apply for a charity organisation to help poor people.

 In 1993, i asked my very close friends to help me to apply for a legal charity organisation and found volunteers to help us and we finaly accepted as a charity organisation by our goverment.

 
 We began helping to 25 families in first months, we were going to visit the families first, we were checking if they are real poor or not and if we find them real poor than we were giving food packs to feed them for 3 months. Each food pack were filled with 17-18 kgs of very useful things as rice, sugar,oil, soup, olives, biscuit, etc. And we were giving each person 1 pack of food, so it would be enough for all family members as we were giving 4 packs of this food packs for a family of four.
 
 We were very happy to help those people, we were not caring whatever they are trusting or whatever their etnicity were…for us to be poor was enough reason for helping…
 
 All the costs of those foods were coming from our volunteers` helps. We were not disturbing people to give us help as we knew it is now a fair way of asking help. We were not beggars either, we were helping to the poors of everybody, in that case they should come and help us themselves. But it never happened …. Even the people who never helped us, asked us to help the poor around them and even they were complaining us why we could not send the food on time, they should understand that the money coming from volunteers were not enough to feed everyone on time, sometimes we had to lend money from friends to give the foods on time… Noone were caring our troubles in fact. IT WAS OUR DUTY TO HELP PEOPLE, without helping a penny, people were quarreling us for our helps on time!
 
 The goverment cares the charity organisations, they control our everything very carefuly. ALready we had to care all the small things as we should not make any mistake, otherwise our charity would be closed, we should even go to jail if we make mistaken things.
 
 We had our website and we had added our bank details there, so that someone who wants to send money should do it through bank as it was very legal way of help, but one day the police called us and asked why we had put the bank details on the web page, we had to go to the police station to answer it. It was not legal to put bank details without goverment acceptance. We did not know it really. All our bank accounts were locked by police control as they accepted us as illegal money appliers. The funny thing is there were only 10 USD amount of money in all our accounts! In fact noone were helping us, even the police officers were surprised and laughed us when they saw 10 USD value at our account.
 
 We had to care every step we go ahead. we had to check the law carefuly, we had to do everything in legal system. We were in nervous situation as we were between the goverment control, poors, volunteers, attackers to us were also around us. We never would understand those attackers, they were thinking us as terrorists as we were helping poor, they were sending us mails and swearing to us, they were asking to power behind us, they were thinking us as communists etc etc. We were tired of all those stress aorund in fact.
 
 Whatever we did was accepted as simple things, what we had done?
– Reached more than 1000 families
– Helped 150 families continuously
– Gave foods every 3 months
– Sent 1 ton of coal to every family on winter
– Gave school help to students
– Gave lots of clothes to families
– Sent packs of books to schools of poor villages
– Gave household items to the poor families from the volunteers
– Found job to more than 5 families
etc etc
 
What we had done? nothing……
 
FINALLY; To open a charity organisation to help the poor is a very big problem… We continue our helps still, we know it is our duty to continue help without asking anything from them. We do it for our GOD, in our religion it is said to help humans for the name of GOD is the biggest pray you can make. We know to walk under the heavy rain at night is much difficult than walking under sunny road, we are just few volunteers who is still fighting for the poverty.
 
I am proud of all those volunteers as every one of them are fighting with not only poors but around too… To kill a person is very easy, can you make a half dead person alive? Can you? They do…….

ABOUT LOVE…..

When we are together I stay awake all night
When I’m on my own I cannot sleep
Blessed be God for these two insomnias
And the difference between them.
Rumi
 
Not less of love, but expanding
Of love beyond desire, and so liberation
From the Future as well as the past.
T. S. Eliot, Little Gidding
 
There’s such a thing as trying too hard
You got to sing like you don’t need the money
Love like you’ll never get hurt
You got to dance, dance, dance like nobody’s watching
It’s gotta come from the heart if you want it to work
Susana Clark & Richard Leigh, Come from the heart, (words and music)
 
He who bends to himself a Joy
Doth the winged life destroy;
But he who kisses the Joy as it flies
Lives in Eternity’s sunrise.
Blake, William, Gnomic Verses
 
One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life. That word is love.
Sophocles
 
Oh, Jacques, we’re used to each other, we’re a pair of captive hawks caught in the same cage, and so we’ve grown used to each other. That’s what passes for love at this dim, shadowy end of the Camino Real.
Tennessee Williams
 
Whom shall I call on? Who will share with me
The wretched happiness of staying alive?
Sergei Yesenin
 
We all want to fall in love. Why?
Because that experience makes us feel completely alive,
where every sense is heightened,
and every emotion is magnified.
Our everyday reality is shattered
and we are flying into the heavens.
It may only last a moment, an hour, or an afternoon,
but that doesn’t diminish its value,
because we are left with memories
that we treasure for the rest of our lives.
From the movie The Mirror Has Two Faces (starring Barbara Streisand)
 
Love is a moment that lasts forever…
Julie Wittey
 
Love is when you look into someone’s eyes and see their heart.
Jill Petty
 
Speak low if you speak love.
William Shakespeare, Much Ado about Nothing, ACT II Scene 1.
 
Man is torn away from his primary union with nature, which characterizes animal existence. Having at the same time reason and imagination, he is aware of his aloneness and separateness; of his powerlessness and ignorance; of the accidentalness of his birth and death. He could not face this state of being for a second if he could not find new ties with his fellow man which replace the old ones regulated by instincts. Even if all his physiological needs were satisfied, he would experience his state of aloneness and individuation as a prison from which he had to break in order to preserve his sanity. (…) the necessity to unite with other living beings, to be related to them, is an imperative need on the fulfilment of which man’s sanity depends. This need is behind all phenomena which constitute the whole gamut of intimate human relations, of all passions which are called love in the broadest sense of the word
Erich Fromm, The Sane Society
 
There is a comfort in the strength of love
‘Twill make a thing endurable
Which else would overset the brain
Or break the human heart.
William Wordsworth, Michael, lines 456-460
 
L’amor chi move il sole e l’altre stelle.
[Love that moves the sun and the other stars].
Dante
 
However it is debased or misinterpreted, love is a redemptive feature. To focus on one individual so that their desires become superior to yours is a very cleansing experience.
Jeanette Winterson
 
For love … has two faces; one white, the other black; two bodies; one smooth, the other hairy. It has two hands, two feet, two tails, two, indeed, of every member and each one is the exact opposite of the other. Yet, so strictly are they joined together that you cannot separate them.
Virginia Woolf
 
Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude. It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd.
Louis Aragon
 
There is love of course. And then there’s life, its enemy.
Jean Anouilh
 
A pity beyond all telling
Is hid in the heart of love.
W. B. Yeats
 
Will you still love me when I’m sixty-four?
Paul McCartney
 
In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.
Janos Arany
 
For aught that I could ever read,
Could ever hear by tale or history,
The course of true love never did run smooth.
William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night’s Dream
 
And yet, to say the truth, reason and love
keep little company together now-a-days.
William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night’s Dream
 
A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.
Woodrow Wyatt
 
Of all the pain, the greatest pain,
It is to love, but in vain.
Abraham Cowley, Anacreontics
 
We are all born for love. It is the principle of existence,
and its only end.
Benjamin Disraeli, Sibyl
 
God, from a beautiful necessity, is Love.
Martin Farquhar Tupper, Of Immortality
 
In the spring a young man’s fancy lightly turns
to thoughts of love.
Alfred, Lord Tennyson, Locksley Hall
 
Love and a red nose can’t be hid.
Thomas Holcroft, Duplicity
 
They sin who tell us Love can die:
With Life all other passions fly,
All others are but vanity.
Robert Southey, The Curse of Kehama
 
Say thou dost love me, love me-toll
The silver iterance!-only minding, Dear,
To love me also in silence with thy soul.
Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Sonnets from the Portuguese
 
Unless it’s mad, passionate, Extraordinary love, It’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life Love shouldn’t be one of them.
Movie: Dream for an Insomniac
If you say, I love you, then you have already fallen in love with language, which is already a form of break up and infidelity.
Jean Baudrillard
 
I don’t want to live – I want to love first, And live incidentally.
Zelda Fitzgerald, letter to F. Scott Fitzgerald, 1919
 
You know it’s love when you want to give joy and damn the consequences."
Frank Herbert, God Emperor of Dune
When we understand that man is the only animal who must create meaning, who must open a wedge into neutral nature, we already understand the essence of love. Love is the problem of an animal who must find life, create a dialogue with nature in order to experience his own being.
Ernest Becker
 
To love someone is to isolate him from the world, wipe out every trace of him, dispossess him of his shadow, drag him into a murderous future. It is to circle around the other like a dead star and absorb him into a black light.
Jean Baudrillard
 
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
Bible, New Testament, 1 John 4:18.
 
Perfect love is rare indeed –
for to be a lover will require that you continually
have the subtlety of the very wise,
the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist,
the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint,
the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain.
Leo Buscaglia
 
For one human being to love another:
that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks;
the ultimate, the last test and proof,
the work for which all other work is but preparation.
Rainer Maria Rilke
 
Do you love me because I am beautiful,
or am I beautiful because you love me?
Cinderella
 
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Bible, Corinthians 13:4-8
 
There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
no disease that enough love will not heal;
no door that enough love will not open;
no gulf that enough love will not bridge;
no wall that enough love will not throw down;
no sin that enough love will not redeem…
It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble;
how hopeless the outlook; how muddled the tangle; how great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.
If only you could love enough you would be
the happiest and most powerful being in the world…
Emmet Fox
 
If I place love above everything, it is because for me it is the most desperate, the most despairing state of affairs imaginable.
André Breton
 
Love seeketh only self to please,
To bind another to its delight,
Joys in another’s loss of ease,
And builds a Hell in Heaven’s despite.
William Blake
 
I f thou must love me, let it be for nought
Except for love’s sake only. Do not say,
I love her for her smile … her look … her way
Of speaking gently … for a trick of thought
That falls in well with mine, and, certes, brought
A sense of pleasant ease on such a day-
For these things in themselves, Beloved, may
Be changed, or change for thee-and love so wrought,
May be unwrought so.
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
 
The desire for possession is insatiable, to such a point that it can survive even love itself. To love, therefore, is to sterilize the person one loves.
Albert Camus
 
Love is the extra effort we make in our dealings with those whom we do not like and once you understand that, you understand all. This idea that love overtakes you is nonsense. This is but a polite manifestation of sex. To love another you have to undertake some fragment of their destiny.
Quentin Crisp
 
Art is not necessary at all. All that is necessary to make this world a better place to live in is to love-to love as Christ loved, as Buddha loved.
Isadora Duncan
 
They do not love that do not show their love.
John Heywood, Proverbs
 
What the world needs now,
Is love,
Sweet love.
I feel it when I when I sorrow most:
It is better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
Alfred Tennyson, In Memoriam
 
Then, must you speak
Of one that loved not wisely but too well.
William Shakespeare, Othello
 
Love sought is good,
but given unsought is better
William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night
 
All is fair in love and war.
Francais Edward Smedley, Frank Fairleigh
 
Love reckons hours for months, and days for years;
And every little absence is an age.
John Dryden, Amphitryon
 
Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned,
Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.
William Congreve, The Mourning Bride
 
Romantic love, in pornography as in life, is the mythic celebration of female negation. For a woman, love is defined as her willingness to submit to her own annihilation…. The proof of love is that she is willing to be destroyed by the one whom she loves, for his sake. For the woman, love is always self-sacrifice, the sacrifice of identity, will, and bodily integrity, in order to fulfill and redeem the masculinity of her lover.
Andrea Dworkin
 
If only the strength of the love that people feel when it is reciprocated could be as intense and obsessive as the love we feel when it is not; then marriages would be truly made in heaven.
Ben Elton
 
Well, love is insanity. The ancient Greeks knew that. It is the taking over of a rational and lucid mind by delusion and self-destruction. You lose yourself, you have no power over yourself, you can’t even think straight.
Marilyn French
 
Love is often nothing but a favorable exchange between two people who get the most of what they can expect, considering their value on the personality market.
Erich Fromm
 
At any rate, let us love for a while, for a year or so, you and me. That’s a form of divine drunkenness that we can all try.
F. Scott Fitzgerald
 
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but
from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions
May wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
As the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you
So shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth
So is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses
Your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and
Shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
 
I know that somewhere in the Universe exists my perfect soulmate
but looking for her is much more difficult than just staying at home and ordering another pizza.
Alf Whit
 
If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?
Lily Tomlin
 
If the universe has any purpose more important then topping a woman you love and making a baby with her hearty help, I have never heard of it.
Lazarus Long
 
If you have it [love], you don’t need to have anything else, and if you don’t have it, it doesn’t matter much what else you have.
Sir James M. Barrie
 
It is not how much we do, but how much love we put in the doing. It is not how much we give, but how much love we put in the giving.
Mother Teresa
 
Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies.
John Donne
 
Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
Franklin P. Jones
 
Love is also like a coconut which is good while it is fresh, but you have to spit it out when the juice is gone, what’s left tastes bitter.
Bertolt Brecht
 
Madame, it is an old word and each one takes it new and wears it out himself. It is a word that fills with meaning as a bladder with air and the meaning goes out of it as quickly. It may be punctured as a bladder is punctured and patched and blown up again and if you have not had it it does not exist for you. All people talk of it, but those who have had it are marked by it, and I would not wish to speak of it further since of all things it is the most ridiculous to talk of and only fools go through it many times.
Ernest Hemingway, Death in the Afternoon, ch. 11
 
He who wants to do good, knocks at the gate; he who loves finds the gates open.
Rabindranath Tagore, Thakur
 
True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about but few have seen.
Unknown
 
Love is an obsessive delusion that is cured by marriage.
Dr. Karl Bowman
 
Love is an ocean of emotions entirely surrounded by expenses.
Lord Dewar
 
Love is being stupid together.
Paul Valery
 
There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer, no disease that enough love will not heal, no door that enough love will not bridge, no wall that enough love will not throw down, no sin that enough love will not redeem… It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble, how hopeless the outlook, how muddled the tangle, how great the mistake. A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all. If only you could love enough, you could be the happiest and most powerful being in the world…
Emmet Fox
 
Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another.
H. L. Mencken
 
Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it…. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.
Erica Jong
 
Love (understood as the desire of good for another) is in fact so unnatural a phenomenon that it can scarcely repeat itself, the soul being unable to become virgin again and not having energy enough to cast itself out again into the ocean of another’s soul.
James Joyce, Notes to the play Exiles
 
A man has only one escape from his old self: to see a different self-in the mirror of some woman’s eyes.
Clare Boothe Luce,
 
The spiritualization of sensuality is called love: it is a great triumph over Christianity.
Friedrich Nietzsche, Twilight of the Idols, "Morality as Anti-Nature," aph. 3
 
Love is the cheapest of religions.
Cesare Pavese, The Burning Brand: Diaries 1935-1950 (1952; tr. 1961), entry for 21 Dec. 1939.
 
People who are not in love fail to understand how an intelligent man can suffer because of a very ordinary woman. This is like being surprised that anyone should be stricken with cholera because of a creature so insignificant as the comma bacillus.
Marcel Proust, Remembrance of Things Past, vol. 2, "Swann’s Way: Swann in Love"
 
Love: Two minds without a single thought.
Philip Barry
 
Many people when they fall in love look for a little haven of refuge from the world, where they can be sure of being admired when they are not admirable, and praised when they are not praiseworthy.
Bertrand Russell
 
I regard as a mortal sin not only the lying of the senses in matters of love, but also the illusion which the senses seek to create where love is only partial. I say, I believe, that one must love with all of one’s being, or else live, come what may, a life of complete chastity.
George Sand
 
Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs,
Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers’ eyes,
Being vexed, a sea nourished with lovers’ tears.
What is it else? A madness most discreet,
A choking gall and a preserving sweet.
William Shakespeare
 
Men have died from time to time, and worms have eaten them, but not for love.
William Shakespeare, Rosalind, in As You Like It, act 4, sc. 1.
 
The fickleness of the women I love is only equalled by the infernal constancy of the women who love me.
George Bernard Shaw
 
Love is free; to promise for ever to love the same woman is not less absurd than to promise to believe the same creed; such a vow in both cases excludes us from all inquiry.
Percy Bysshe Shelley
 
When desire, having rejected reason and overpowered judgment which leads to right, is set in the direction of the pleasure which beauty can inspire, and when again under the influence of its kindred desires it is moved with violent motion towards the beauty of corporeal forms, it acquires a surname from this very violent motion, and is called love.
Socrates, Quoted in: Plato, Phaedrus.
 
For it is the suffering flesh, it is suffering, it is death, that lovers perpetuate upon the earth. Love is at once the brother, son, and father of death, which is its sister, mother, and daughter. And thus it is that in the depth of love there is a depth of eternal despair, out of which springs hope and consolation.
Miguel de Unamuno
 
Love is life. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. Everything is, everything exists, only because I love. Everything is united by it alone. Love is God, and to die means that I, a particle of love, shall return to the general and eternal source.
Leo Tolstoy
 
I’ve only been in love with a beer bottle and a mirror.
Sid Vicious
 
If somebody says, "I love you," to me, I feel as though I had a pistol pointed at my head. What can anybody reply under such conditions but that which the pistol-holder requires? "I love you, too."
Kurt Vonnegut, Jr., Wampeters, Foma and Granfallons, "Address at Dedication of Wheaton College Library, 1973" (1974).
 
Fantasy love is much better than reality love. Never doing it is very exciting. The most exciting attractions are between two opposites that never meet.
Andy Warhol
 
When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.
Oscar Wilde, Lord Henry, in The Picture of Dorian Gray, ch. 4 (1891). The same words reappeared spoken by Lord Illingworth in A Woman of No Importance, act 3.
 
I do not think that what is called Love at first sight is so great an absurdity as it is sometimes imagined to be. We generally make up our minds beforehand to the sort of person we should like, grave or gay, black, brown, or fair; with golden tresses or raven locks;-and when we meet with a complete example of the qualities we admire, the bargain is soon struck.
William Hazlitt
 
Mine ear is much enamoured of thy note;
So is mine eye enthrallèd to thy shape;
And thy fair virtue’s force perforce doth move me
On the first view to say, to swear, I love thee.
William Shakespeare
 
One advantage of marriage
It seems to me
Is that when you fall out of love with him
Or he falls out of love with you
It keeps you together until maybe you fall in again.
Judith Viorst
 
One good thing about internet dating: you’re guaranteed to click with whomever you meet.
Mongo
 
May you live as long as you wish and love as long as you live.
Robert A. Heinlein, Time Enough for Love
 
To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
Unknown
 
Today I begin to understand what love must be, if it exists… When we are parted, we each feel the lack of the other half of ourselves. We are incomplete like a book in two volumes of which the first has been lost. That is what I imagine love to be: incompleteness in absence.
Goncourt
 
We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.
John Lennon
 
You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.
Barbara DeAngelis
 
When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.
Jimi Hendrix
 
I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.
Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
 
Once I dropped a tear in the ocean. When I find it is when I’ll stop loving you.
Anonymous
 
Life is to be fortified by many friendships. To love and to be loved is the greatest happiness of existence.
Sydney Smith
 
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Lao-Tzu
 
Pure love and suspicion cannot dwell together: at the door where the latter enters, the former makes its exit.
Alexandre Dumas
 
A man is not where he lives, but where he loves.
Latin proverb
 
To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.
Karen Sunde
 
Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire.
La Rochefoucauld
 
Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.
Comte DeBussy-Rabutin
 
 
"We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck . . . But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness.
Ellen Goodman
 
Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.
James Baldwin
 
A relationship is like a rose,
How long it lasts, no one knows;
Love can erase an awful past,
Love can be yours, you’ll see at last;
To feel that love, it makes you sigh,
To have it leave, you’d rather die;
You hope you’ve found that special rose,
Cause you love and care for the one you chose.
Rob Cella
 
Come live with me, and be my love,
And we will some new pleasures prove
Of golden sands, and crystal brooks,
With silken lines, and silver hooks.
John Donne
 
… and the only measure of your worth and your deeds will be the love you leave behind when you’re gone.
Fred Small, Everything Possible
The magic of the first love is the ignorance that it can never end.
Disraeli
 
Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.
Leo Buscaglia
 
Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reasons from coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
Kent Nerburn
 
Love enables you to put your deepest feelings and fears in the palm of your partner’s hand, knowing they will be handled with care.
Carl S. Avery
 
To love at all is to be vulnerable.
C.S. Lewis
 
Love is not something you feel. It’s something you do.
David Wilkerson
 
The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed.
J. Krishnamurti
 
…so in love the heart surrenders itself entirely to the one being known how to touch it. That being is not selected but recognized and obeyed.
George Santayana
 
No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever.
Francois Mocuriac
 
There is no distance too great between friends, for love gives wings to the heart.
Unknown
 
Where there is love there is life.
Unknown
 
Love doesn’t make the world go round, it makes the ride worthwhile.
F.P. Jones
 
All our young lives we search for someone to love, someone who makes us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if somewhere and somehow there is someone searching for us.
The Wonder Years
 
You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.
Barbara DeAngelis
 
Life without love is like a tree without blossom and fruit.
Kahlil Gibran
 
Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration.
D.H.Lawrence
 
Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.
Henry Van Dyke
 
When we come to the last moment of this lifetime, and we look back across it, the only thing that’s going to matter is "What was the quality of our love?"
Richard Bach
 
Love expects no reward. Love knows no fear. Love Divine gives – does not demand. Love thinks no evil; imputes no motive. To Love is to share and serve.
Sivananda
 
Love is but another name for that inscrutable presence by which the soul is connected with humanity.
William Simms
 
All I really need is love, but a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt!
Lucy Van Pelt (in Peanuts, by Charles M. Schulz)
 
It’s not that chocolates are a substitute for love. Love is a substitute for chocolate. Chocolate is, let’s face it, far more reliable than a man.
Miranda Ingram
 
Our hours in love have wings; in absence, crutches.
Colley Cibber
 
He who is in love with himself has at least this advantage he won’t encounter many rivals.
George C. Lichtenberg
 
In art as in love, instinct is enough.
Anatole France
 
Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.
Bertrand Russell
 
What a man takes in by contemplation, that he pours out in love.
Meister Eckhart
 
Every city has a sex and an age which have nothing to do with demography. Rome is feminine. So is Odessa. London is a teenager, an urchin, and, in this, hasn’t changed since the time of Dickens. Paris, I believe, is a man in his twenties in love with an older woman.
John Berger
 
Certain is it that there is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a father to a daughter. In love to our wives there is desire; to our sons, ambition; but to our daughters there is something which there are no words to express.
Joseph Addison
 
A heart in love with beauty never grows old.
Turkish Proverb
 
For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof; the work for which all other work is but preparation
Rainer Maria Rilke
 
The truth is that there is only one terminal dignity – love. And the story of a love is not important -what is important is that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity.
Helen Hayes
 
Where we love is home, home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts.
Oliver Wendell Holmes
 
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.
Aristotle
 
Let no one who loves be unhappy. Even love unreturned has its rainbow
James Mathhew Barrie
 
She fights and vanquishes in me, and i live and breathe in her, and i have life and being.
Migeul de Cervantes
 
The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved
Victor Hugo
 
Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence.
Vincent Van Gough
 
It is love alone that gives worth to all things.
Santa Teresa de Jesus
 
To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.
Karen Sunde
 
Love, you are eternal like springtime.
Juan Ramon Jiminez
 
Beauty in not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.
Kahlil Gibran
 
Harmony is pure love, for love is a concerto.
Lope de Vega
 
Without love, the world itself would not survive.
Lope de Vega
 
 
Pains of love be sweeter far
Than all other pleasures are.
Jon Dryden
 
Each moment of a happy lover’s hour is worth an age of dull and common life.
Aphra Behn
 
We are shaped and fashioned by what we love
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
 
Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind;
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.
William Shakespeare
 
La coeur a ses raisons que la raison ne connait point.
The heart has it’s reasons, whereof reason knows nothing.
Pascal
 
You don’t love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her
Unknown
 
Love will find a way through paths where wolves fear to prey
Lord Byron, The Giaour
 
To love is not to look at one another, but to look together in the same direction
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
 
Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread, re-made all the time, made new.
Ursula K. Le Guin
 
In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.
Mignon McLaughlin
 
The reduction of the universe to a single being,the expansion of a single being even to God, this is love.
Victor Hugo
 
Who travels for love finds a thousand miles not longer than one.
Japanese Proverb
 
A part of you has grown in me. And so you see, it’s you and me together forever and never apart, maybe in distance, but never in heart.
unknown
 
We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly embracing each other.
Liciano De Crescenzo
 
The soul that can speak through the eyes can also kiss with a gaze.
Gustavo Adolfo Becquer
 
A man is not where he lives, but where he loves.
Latin Proverb
 
There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
George Sands
 
Take away love, and our earth is a tomb
Robert Browning, Fra Lippo Lippi
 
Love and you will be loved, and you will be able to do all that you could not do unloved.
Marques de Santillana
 
At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet.
Plato
 
Some people never say those words: ‘I love you’ But, like a child, they’re longing to be told.
Paul Simon
 
Like the measles, love is most dangerous when it comes late in life.
Lord Byron
 
If you cannot inspire a woman with love of you, fill her above the brim with love of herself; all that runs over will be yours.
Charles Caleb Colton
 
There is no remedy for love but to love more.
Henry David Thoreau
 
A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave.
Mahatma Gandhi

MUTLU AŞK YOKTUR

Hiçbir şey elinde değildir insanın: Ne gücü, ne güçsüzlüğü, ne de yüreği. Açtığını sansa da kollarını, gölgesi bir haçtır onun. Paramparça olur avucunda sımsıkı tuttuğu mutluluk. Bir garip, bir acılı boşluktur günleri. Mutlu aşk yoktur. Bir başka kader için giydirilmiş Silahsız askerlere benzer hayatı. Çaresiz, kararsız kaldıktan sonra akşamları, Neye yarar ki sabahları erkenden uyanmaları. Söyle bunları bir tanem, tut gözyaşlarını. Mutlu aşk yoktur. Güzelim, sevgilim, kanayan yaram benim. Yaralı bir kuş gibi taşırım yüreğimde seni. Ve onlar bakarlar bilmeksizin, geçerken biz, Tekrarlayıp ardımdan benim ördüğüm sözleri: Ve apansız ölürler iri gözlerin için Mutlu aşk yoktur. Vakit yok artık öğrenmeye hayatı. Ağlasın birlikte yüreklerimiz gün ışıyıncaya dek. Küçümencik bir şarkı için bile nice mutsuzluk gerek. Bir ürperişi bile nice pişmanlıkla ödemek. Bir ezgi için bile nice gözyaşları dökmek Mutlu aşk yoktur. Hüsranla bitmeyen aşk yoktur. Yara açmayan aşk yoktur kalpte. İz bırakmayan aşk yoktur insanda. Ve tıpkı senin gibidir vatan aşkı da. Gözyaşlarına boğulmayan aşk yoktur. Mutlu aşk yoktur. İkimizin aşkıdır bu gene de. Louis ARAGON

Annabel Lee

 
It was many and many a year ago,
In a kingdom by the sea,
That a maiden there lived whom you may know
By the name of ANNABEL LEE;
And this maiden she lived with no other thought
Than to love and be loved by me.
 
I was a child and she was a child,
In this kingdom by the sea;
But we loved with a love that was more than love-
I and my Annabel Lee;
With a love that the winged seraphs of heaven
Coveted her and me.
 
And this was the reason that, long ago,
In this kingdom by the sea,
A wind blew out of a cloud, chilling
My beautiful Annabel Lee;
So that her highborn kinsman came
And bore her away from me,
To shut her up in a sepulchre
In this kingdom by the sea.
 
The angels, not half so happy in heaven,
Went envying her and me-
Yes!- that was the reason (as all men know,
In this kingdom by the sea)
That the wind came out of the cloud by night,
Chilling and killing my Annabel Lee.
 
But our love it was stronger by far than the love
Of those who were older than we-
Of many far wiser than we-
And neither the angels in heaven above,
Nor the demons down under the sea,
Can ever dissever my soul from the soul
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee.
 
For the moon never beams without bringing me dreams
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;
And the stars never rise but I feel the bright eyes
Of the beautiful Annabel Lee;
And so, all the night-tide, I lie down by the side
Of my darling- my darling- my life and my bride,
In the sepulchre there by the sea,
In her tomb by the sounding sea.
 
by Edgar Allan Poe, 1849

ACI / Halil Cibran

 
Ve bir kadin, "Bize acidan bahset" dedi.
Ve o cevap verdi:
 
"Aciniz, anlayisinizi saklayan kabugun kirilisidir.
 
Nasil bir meyvenin çekirdegi, kalbi Günes’i görebilsin diye
kabugunu kirmak zorundaysa, siz de aciyi bilmelisiniz.
 
Ve eger kalbinizi, yasaminizin günlük mucizelerini
hayranlikla izlemek üzere açarsaniz,acinizin, nesenizden
hiç de daha az harikulade olmadigini göreceksiniz;
 
Ve kirlarinizin üstünden mevsimlerin geçisini kabul ettiginiz gibi,
ayni dogallikla, kalbinizin mevsimlerini de onayliyacaksiniz.
 
Ve kederinizin kisini da, pencerenizden huzur içinde seyredeceksiniz.
 
Acilarinizin çogu sizin tarafindan seçilmistir.
 
Aciniz, aslinda içinizdeki doktorun, hasta yaninizi
iyilestirmek için sundugu "aci" ilaçtir.
Doktorunuza güvenin ve verdigi ilaci sessizce ve sakince için;
 
Çünkü size sert ve hasin de gelse, onun elleri
"Görülmeyen"in sefkatli elleri tarafindan yönlendirilir.
 
Ve size ilaci sundugu kadeh dudaklarinizi yaksa da,
O’nun kutsal gözyaslariyla islanmis kilden yapilmistir."

KURALLAR / Halil Cibran

Sonra bir avukat, "Bize kurallardan bahset…" dedi.
Ve o cevap verdi:
 
"Siz kurallar koymayi çok seversiniz,
Ama kurallari bozmayi daha çok seversiniz.
 
Tipki okyanus kiyisinda sabirla kumdan kuleler yapan,
sonra da kahkahalarla onlari deviren çocuklar gibi.
 
Ancak siz kumdan kulelerinizi yaratirken, okyanus
kiyiya kum tasimaya devam eder.
 
Ve siz onlari yerle bir ederken, okyanus da sizinle birlikte güler.
 
Gerçekten de okyanus, daima masum olanla beraber güler.
 
Fakat yasami bir okyanus ve insanlarin koydugu kurallari kumdan
kuleler olarak görmeyen kisiler için ne diyebiliriz?
 
Onlar için yasam bir kaya, ve kanun bu kayayi kendi isteklerine göre
oyup sekillendirmek için kullanacaklari bir keski gibidir.
 
Danscilardan nefret eden yeteneksiz biri için ne diyebiliriz?
 
Veya boyundurugundan hosnut olup, ormanindaki geyigi basibos
bir serseri olarak yargilayan bir öküz için?
 
Peki, derisini dökemedigi için, digerlerini çiplak ve ahlaksiz
olarak niteleyen yasli bir sürüngene ne demeli?
 
Veya bir dügün sölenine erkenden gelen, iyice karnini doyurduktan
ve yorulduktan sonra, yemekleri ve eglenceyi kötüleyen biri için?
 
Bunlar hakkinda söyleyebilecegim tek sey, hepsinin günes isigi
altinda olduklari halde, Günes’e sirtlarini dönmüs olduklaridir.
 
Onlar salt kendi gölgelerini görebilirler ve bu gölgeler, onlarin kanunlari
olur.
Ve onlar için Günes, bir gölge yaraticisindan baska ne olabilir ki?
 
Ve onlar için kurallara uymak, baslarini yere egip, toprak üzerindeki
gölgelerini izlemekten baska bir sey degildir.
 
Ancak yüzünü Günes’e çevirmis olanlarinizi, toprak üzerine
çizilmis imajlar durdurabilir mi?
 
Eger rüzgarla yolculuk ediyorsaniz, hangi rüzgar gülü yönünüzü çizebilir?
 
Eger boyundurugunuzu kirarsaniz, ama baska birinin hücresinin
kapisinda degil, hangi kanun sizi sinirlayabilir?
 
Ve eger dansederseniz, ama baska birinin zincirlerine takilip
sendelemeden, hangi kanun sizi korkutabilir?
 
Orphalese halki, davulun sesini bogabilir, bir lirin tellerini
gevsetebilirsiniz,ama bir tarla kusuna sarki söylememesi
içinkim emir verebilir ki?"

VERMEK / Halil Cibran

 
Sonra, varlikli bir adam konustu: "Bize vermekten bahset."
Ve o cevap verdi:
 
"Sahip olduklarinizdan verdiginizde,
çok az sey vermis olursunuz;
 
Gerçek veris, kendinizden vermektir.
 
Çünkü sahip olduklariniz, yarin ihtiyaciniz olabilir
diye saklayip korudugunuz seylerden ibaret degil mi?
 
Ve yarin, kutsal sehre giden hacilari takip ederken, kemiklerini,
iz birakmayan kumlara gömen fazla uyanik bir köpege ne getirebilir?
 
Ve ihtiyaç korkusu da, ihtiyaçtan baska birsey degil midir?
 
Kuyunuz tamamen doluyken susuzluktan korkmak,
tatmin olamayan bir susuzluk göstermez mi?
 
Çok fazla seye sahip olup, çok az verenler, bunu
gösteris isteyen gizli arzulari için yaparlar,
ki bu da armaganlarini yararsiz kilar.
 
Ve bazilari vardir ki, çok az seye sahiptirler ve hepsini verirler.
Bunlar hayata ve hayatin definesine inananlardir,
ve kasalari hiç bos kalmaz.
 
Bazilari sevinçle verirler, bu sevinç onlarin ödülüdür.
Bazilari ise istirap içinde verirler ve bu aci onlarin vaftizidir.
 
Ve bazilari vardir ki, ne vermenin acisini hissederler,
ne sevinç ararlar, ne de bir erdemlilik düsüncesi tasirlar;
Onlar, su vadideki mersin agacinin kokusunu salisi gibi verirler.
 
Böyle kisilerin ellerinde Tanri dile gelir ve
onlarin gözlerinden Tanri, dünyaya gülümser.
 
Istendigi zaman vermek güzel bir davranis olabilir; fakat
istenmeden, ihtiyaci hissederek vermek çok daha anlamlidir.
 
Ve cömert olan için, verecek kimseyi aramak,
veris olayindan daha fazla sevinç getirir.
 
Vermekten alikoyacaginiz herhangi bir sey olabilir mi?
Sahip oldugunuz her sey bir gün verilecektir.
 
Öyleyse simdi verin ve vermenin hazzini
mirasçilariniz degil siz yasayin..
 
Çogunlukla söyle dersiniz:
‘Verecegim, ama hak edeni bulabilirsem.’
 
Ne koruluktaki meyve agaçlari böyle düsünür,
ne de çayirdaki sürüler.
 
Onlar, saklandiginda çürüyecek olani, yasayabilsin diye verirler.
 
Herhalde kendisine günler ve geceler verilmesini hak eden
bir kisi, sizden gelebilecek seyleri de hak eder.
 
Ve hayat okyanusundan içmeye hak kazanmis bir insan,
sizin küçük irmaginizdan da bir bardak su alabilir.
 
Faydasindan öte, kabul etmenin gerektirdigi cesaretten ve
güvenden daha büyük bir deger var midir?
 
Ve siz kim oluyorsunuz da, onlarin gögüslerini yirtarak
gururlarini korunmasizca ortaya seriyor, sonra da
onlarin degerlerini örtüsüz ve gururlarini
utanmasiz olarak degerlendiriyorsunuz?
 
Önce kendinizi vermeye hak kazanmis ve
verme olayinda bir araci olarak görün.
 
Çünkü gerçekte herseyi veren hayattir
ve siz kendinizi bir verici olarak belirlediginizde,
sadece bir tanik oldugunuzu unutuyorsunuz.
 
Ve siz alicilar, ki hepiniz bu gruba dahilsiniz,ne kendinize
ne de size verene bir boyunduruk yüklememek için,
hiç bir minnet hissi tasimayin.
 
Bunun yerine, armaganlari kanat yaparak,
verenle beraber yükselin;
Çünkü borcunuzu gereginden fazla abartmak,
annesi özgür yürekli dünya,
babasi evren olan cömertlik olgusundan
süphe etmek demektir…"

EGITIM / Halil CIbran

 
Sonra bir ögretmen, "Bize egitimden bahset." dedi.
Ve o cevap verdi:
 
"Hiç kimse size, içinizdeki bilginin safaginda halen
yari uykuda olandan bir zerre fazlasini açiklayamaz.
 
Takipçileri arasinda mabedin gölgesinde
yürüyen bir ögretmen, size bilgeligini degil
sadece inancini ve sevgisini verebilir.
 
Eger gerçek bir bilgeyse,
bilgeliginin evine davet etmek yerine,
sizi kendi aklinizin esigine dogru yönlendirir.
 
Bir astronomi bilgini,
size uzayla ilgili anlayisindan bahsedebilir
ama anlayisini size veremez.
 
Bir müzisyen her yerde var olan ritimlerle
bir sarki söyleyebilir;ancak ne ritmi yakalayan kulagi,
ne de onu ekolayan sesi size sunabilir.
 
Ve semboller ilminde usta biri,
size simgesel alanlardan söz eder,
ama sizi oralara tasiyamaz.
 
Çünkü bir kisinin sahip oldugu ilham,
kanatlarini baska birine ödünç veremez.
 
Ve nasil herbiriniz Tanri’nin bilgisinde özgün
bir yere sahipseniz, sizin de Tanri’yi kayrayisiniz
ve dünyayi anlayisiniz tek basiniza ve size özel olacaktir."

BERABERLIK / Halil Cibran

 
Sonra Almitra tekrar konustu: "Peki ya beraberlik?"
Ve o cevap verdi:
 
"Siz beraber dogdunuz ve hep öyle kalacaksiniz.
Ölümün beyaz kanatlari, sizin günlerinizi
dagittiginda da beraber olacaksiniz.
 
Siz Tanri’nin sessiz belleginde bile beraber olacaksiniz.
 
Fakat birlikteliginizde belli bosluklar birakin.
Ve izin verin, cennetlerin rüzgarlari aranizda dans edebilsin…
 
Birbirinizi sevin; ama sevgi bir bag olmasin,
Daha ziyade, ruhlarinizin sahilleri arasinda
hareket eden bir deniz gibi olsun.
 
Birbirlerinizin bardaklarini doldurun;
ancak ayni bardaktan içmeyin…
Ekmeklerinizi paylasin; ama
birbirinizinkini yemeyin…
 
Beraberce sarki söyleyin, dans edin, cosun;
fakat birbirinizin yalnizligina izin verin;
Tipki bir lavtanin tellerinin ayri ayri olup,
yine de ayni müzikle titresmeyi bilmeleri gibi…
 
Birbirinize kalbinizi verin; ama digerinin saklamasi için degil;
Çünkü yalnizca Hayat’in eli, sizin kalplerinizi kavriyabilir…
 
Ve yanyana ayakta durun; ama çok yakin degil,
Çünkü bir mabedin ayaklari arasinda mesafe olmalidir;
Ve mese agaciyla, selvi agaci,
birbirinin gölgesi altinda büyüyemez."

HAZ / Halil Cibran

 
Sehri yilda bir ziyaret eden bir münzevi
söyle dedi: "Bize hazdan bahset."
 
O, konusmaya basladi:
 
"Haz bir özgürlük sarkisidir,
Ama özgürlük degil…
 
Haz, arzularin tomurcugudur,
Ama meyvesi degil…
 
Yükselisi çagiran bir derinliktir,
Ama ne derin, ne de yüksek olandir…
 
Kafestekinin kanatlanisidir,
Mekanla sinirlanmis degildir…
 
Haz, aslinda bir özgürlük sarkisidir…
 
Bu sarkiyi tüm kalbinizle söyleyin,
Ama sarkida kalbinizi yitirmeden…
 
Gençligin büyük bölümü hazzi arar,
sanki haz hersey gibi; ama yargilanir
ve azarlanirlar.
Ben onlari ne yargilar, ne azarlarim. Birakin arasinlar…
Çünkü onlar arayislarindayalnizca hazzi bulmayacaklar.
Hazzin yedi kizkardesi vardir ve en küçükleri
bile hazdan daha muhtesemdir.
 
Bitki kökleri için topragi kazarken hazine bulan
adamin hikayesini duymadiniz mi?
 
Aranizda daha olgun olan bazilari geçmiste yasadiklari hazlari,
sarhosken islenen yanlislar misali, pismanlikla hatirlar.
Fakat pismanlik aklin bulutlandirilmasidir, uslandirilmasi degil.
Onlar hazlarini minnetle anmalidirlar, bir yazin sonundaki hasat gibi.
Yine de onlari unutmak rahatlatiyorsa, birakin rahat kalsinlar.
 
Arayanlar kadar genç, hatirlayanlar kadar yasli
olmayanlar ise, ruhun gereklerini ihmal etmek veya
kabahat islemek korkusuyla hazdan sakinirlar.
 
Fakat onlari da yönlendiren hazdir;
bitki kökleri için topragi titreyen ellerle
kazsalar bile onlar da hazineyi bulurlar.
 
Söyleyin bana, onlar kim ki ruhu gücendirsinler?
Bülbül gecenin sessizligini veya ates böcegi
yildizlari gücendirebilir mi?
 
Ve sizin atesiniz veya dumaniniz rüzgara yük olur mu?
 
Nasil olur da ruhu, bir çomakla karistirabileceginiz
sakin bir havuz gibi algilayabilirsiniz?
 
Çogunlukla, hazzi reddettiginizde asil yaptiginiz,
varliginizin gizli yerlerinde arzuyu depolamak olacaktir.
 
Bugün ihmal edilenin yarini beklemedigini kim bilebilir?
Ve bedeniniz, ruhunuzun müzik aletidir.
Ve güzel müzik veya anlasilmaz
sesler çikarmak size kalmistir.
 
Simdi kalbinize sorun:
‘Bizim için iyi olan hazla zararli hazzi nasil ayirabiliriz?’
Kirlara, bahçelere çikin; ögreneceksiniz ki çiçeklerden
bal toplamak arinin hazzidir; balini sunmak ise çiçegin…
 
Çünkü ariya göre çiçek yasamin kaynagidir.
Ve çiçek için ari sevginin ulagidir.
 
Ve ikisi için ise, hazzin verilmesi ve alinmasi
bir gereksinim ve bir vecddir…
 
Hazlarinizda arilar ve çiçekler gibi olun…"